Listen, guys, sometimes plans change. It’s not personal! Stuff happens. This is an important thing to remember, just generally in life, but especially if you are planning a wedding.
I have never planned a wedding (sorry, Mom), but I have read a considerable amount of advice columns, so I feel like I can say this with some authority.
I’m mentioning it now because this is a story about a Minnesota woman who says she was billed after skipping a wedding to which she had RVSPed.
Yup.
Jessica Baker told KARE-TV that she and her husband received a $75.90 bill after missing the wedding that they had originally planned to attend earlier this year. The couple’s babysitter — Baker’s mother — fell through, which prompted the change of plans, the station reported.
Remember how I said sometimes stuff happens? Here is a real-life example!
“The invoice arrived in the mail yesterday,” Baker told the NBC affiliate in Minneapolis. “My first reaction was just, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me. You’ve got to be kidding me.'”
“And then, when I read it, the whole thing, I just kind of laughed and had to call up my husband and go, ‘Uh, our friends sent us this bill for not making it to their wedding.’ And we kind of had a good laugh about it.”
The bill covered the cost of two meals, plus tax and a service charge, according to the station.
“This cost reflects the amount paid by bride and groom for meals that were RSVPed for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated,” it read.
I have never planned a wedding (sorry, Mom), but I have read a considerable amount of advice columns, so I feel like I can say this with some authority.
I’m mentioning it now because this is a story about a Minnesota woman who says she was billed after skipping a wedding to which she had RVSPed.
Yup.
Jessica Baker told KARE-TV that she and her husband received a $75.90 bill after missing the wedding that they had originally planned to attend earlier this year. The couple’s babysitter — Baker’s mother — fell through, which prompted the change of plans, the station reported.
Remember how I said sometimes stuff happens? Here is a real-life example!
“The invoice arrived in the mail yesterday,” Baker told the NBC affiliate in Minneapolis. “My first reaction was just, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me. You’ve got to be kidding me.'”
“And then, when I read it, the whole thing, I just kind of laughed and had to call up my husband and go, ‘Uh, our friends sent us this bill for not making it to their wedding.’ And we kind of had a good laugh about it.”
The bill covered the cost of two meals, plus tax and a service charge, according to the station.
“This cost reflects the amount paid by bride and groom for meals that were RSVPed for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated,” it read.
Her Royal Wedding Comment:
Unfortunately, this is very inappropriate and in the "book" of Wedding Etiquette violations, ranks high on the list. Understand that hosting a wedding or any event for that matter is an investment. Investments come with upside and downside risks. You might argue that guests who do not attend an event they previously RSVP'd for are being inconsiderate of the hosts. But the reality is that life happens. There is always a chance that something unexpected will come up, thus pr...eventing guests from attending the event. But think about this - first, if 2 or more guests not attending will break the bank, then you should seriously consider downsizing the event. Second, it is not okay to send an invoice for the expense - ever. Third, in the name of your friendship, provide your guests some grace - it is very likely they feel bad about missing the ceremony and may even offer to make up for it at a later date.
In the end, the most important attendees are you and your bride/groom. Don't ruin the memory by creating unnecessary drama related to the occasion.
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Unfortunately, this is very inappropriate and in the "book" of Wedding Etiquette violations, ranks high on the list. Understand that hosting a wedding or any event for that matter is an investment. Investments come with upside and downside risks. You might argue that guests who do not attend an event they previously RSVP'd for are being inconsiderate of the hosts. But the reality is that life happens. There is always a chance that something unexpected will come up, thus pr...eventing guests from attending the event. But think about this - first, if 2 or more guests not attending will break the bank, then you should seriously consider downsizing the event. Second, it is not okay to send an invoice for the expense - ever. Third, in the name of your friendship, provide your guests some grace - it is very likely they feel bad about missing the ceremony and may even offer to make up for it at a later date.
In the end, the most important attendees are you and your bride/groom. Don't ruin the memory by creating unnecessary drama related to the occasion.
Follow me on Twitter & Instagram: @HerRoyalWedding
#WeddingAdvice #PlanABetterWedding #YourWeddingYourWay #HerRoyalWedding
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